Client: “I have so much anxiety and it just gets in my way w…

Client: “I have so much anxiety and it just gets in my way with everything. I feel like I suck at my job because anytime I am in a meeting or talking to clients I am so anxious that I mess up my words or start to sweat and turn red. Its just so embarrassing.” Therapist: Was there ever a time in your life when talking ot clients or presenting in meetings was easier for you? On a scale of 1-10 how much would you say this problem is affecting you? What kind of therapist is this?    

Client: “I just can’t stop drinking. I know its bad for me a…

Client: “I just can’t stop drinking. I know its bad for me and I feel so guilty when I do drink but I guess I just dont want to live in my present. My job sucks. My marriage sucks. I am constantly worried about what will happen to me, my family, the economy… everything. Drinking is a little vacation from that.” Therapist: “Oh I see.  Drinking allows you to escape your negative feelings like anxiety. Every time you drink to cope with those feelings you are essentially reinforcing your own behavior. We need to help you find another way to relax.” What kind of therapist is this?

Client: “I just can’t believe I am divorced. I can’t believe…

Client: “I just can’t believe I am divorced. I can’t believe I wasn’t strong enough to fix it. I just have so much shame. I guess I really am a loser just like the rest of my family.” Therapist: “You’re not a loser. That’s your shame talking. Shame loves to attack us and make us feel small. It is happiest when we are suffering. Let’s name your shame, what do you want to call this hideous thing?” What kind of therapist is this?